Comments on: The New York Times and Social Lives! http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/ Sun, 12 Jun 2011 20:09:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Chantal http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-2872 Chantal Fri, 11 Dec 2009 08:28:47 +0000 http://wendywalkerbooks.com/?p=266#comment-2872 Just discovered your website and am looking forward to reading your books. I gave up my job to follow my husband's job abroad, and I find the topics you are discussing really relevant to trailing spouses abroad as well--even those of us without kids yet. Just discovered your website and am looking forward to reading your books. I gave up my job to follow my husband’s job abroad, and I find the topics you are discussing really relevant to trailing spouses abroad as well–even those of us without kids yet.

]]> By: Wendy http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-1409 Wendy Wed, 02 Sep 2009 20:48:08 +0000 http://wendywalkerbooks.com/?p=266#comment-1409 Loans and savings from my first job! It's not easy. Loans and savings from my first job! It’s not easy.

]]> By: twotix http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-1389 twotix Tue, 01 Sep 2009 16:52:27 +0000 http://wendywalkerbooks.com/?p=266#comment-1389 I could not afford an Ivy League college and had to pay my own way throgh UCONN. How on earth did you pay for Georgetown? --Twotix I could not afford an Ivy League college and had to pay my own way throgh UCONN.
How on earth did you pay for Georgetown?

–Twotix

]]> By: Wendy http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-1118 Wendy Sun, 16 Aug 2009 11:57:21 +0000 http://wendywalkerbooks.com/?p=266#comment-1118 Thanks, Sandy. I appreciate your honesty. There are many trade-offs in life and sometimes we don't realize that the scales are no longer in balance until we are too far along the path. It's hard to change a life once it's in motion, especially with children who get settled with friends and schools, etc. I know people who are content in all different types of marriages, and others who are deeply unhappy in the exact same situation. I guess it comes down to choosing what's right for us and having the courage to make changes when needed. The next book is about love and redemption and writing after Social Lives is very rewarding! Thanks, Sandy. I appreciate your honesty. There are many trade-offs in life and sometimes we don’t realize that the scales are no longer in balance until we are too far along the path. It’s hard to change a life once it’s in motion, especially with children who get settled with friends and schools, etc. I know people who are content in all different types of marriages, and others who are deeply unhappy in the exact same situation. I guess it comes down to choosing what’s right for us and having the courage to make changes when needed. The next book is about love and redemption and writing after Social Lives is very rewarding!

]]> By: Sandy http://wendywalkerbooks.com/2009/08/the-new-york-times-and-social-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-1112 Sandy Sun, 16 Aug 2009 02:35:09 +0000 http://wendywalkerbooks.com/?p=266#comment-1112 Dear Wendy, Loved the write-up in the New York Times. The press about your books isn't just because of your talent, it's because you're thrown a spotlight on something too long overlooked. You are saying all the things that so many women say privately. I don't know that your books, or the press, will ever dramatically change the lives of the taken-for-granted wives of the world. I don't expect many husbands to change. After all, as you say, there is always someone willing to work harder and longer hours if our mates choose to actually become fathers and husbands, rather than the benefactors they are, knocking themselves out to merely support luxurious, but unsatisfying lives. Still, it's cathartic to read your stories. They're fast. Fun. A great escape. But more than that, they give voice to all of us who have cried many times, alone. They point out the lessons so many of us have painfully learned: a life shared, without Gucci, or Prada, is more valuable than being a glorified servant. And in the end, money really can't buy happiness. What happens once the children grow and leave? Our purpose has packed their bags, iPods on, ear buds in, and walked out the door. Is all that's left some public service work? Kicking our four martini-a-day habit? Shopping for and decorating yet another vacation home? What we all need from you now is to answer the where-do-we-go-from-here question. That shouldn't be too difficult. LOL, COL (cry out loud) Affectionately, Sandy Dear Wendy,

Loved the write-up in the New York Times. The press about your books isn’t just because of your talent, it’s because you’re thrown a spotlight on something too long overlooked.

You are saying all the things that so many women say privately. I don’t know that your books, or the press, will ever dramatically change the lives of the taken-for-granted wives of the world.

I don’t expect many husbands to change. After all, as you say, there is always someone willing to work harder and longer hours if our mates choose to actually become fathers and husbands, rather than the benefactors they are, knocking themselves out to merely support luxurious, but unsatisfying lives.

Still, it’s cathartic to read your stories. They’re fast. Fun. A great escape. But more than that, they give voice to all of us who have cried many times, alone. They point out the lessons so many of us have painfully learned: a life shared, without Gucci, or Prada, is more valuable than being a glorified servant. And in the end, money really can’t buy happiness.

What happens once the children grow and leave? Our purpose has packed their bags, iPods on, ear buds in, and walked out the door. Is all that’s left some public service work? Kicking our four martini-a-day habit? Shopping for and decorating yet another vacation home?

What we all need from you now is to answer the where-do-we-go-from-here question. That shouldn’t be too difficult. LOL, COL (cry out loud)

Affectionately,

Sandy

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